I spent much of Sunday afternoon in our shop garage, looking through a bunch of our old baby items for things to sell on Craigslist. I was supposedly tackling the disorganized clutter of assorted outgrown infant carriers and safety gates that has over time evolved into a mountainous collection of all things outgrown, but what I was really doing was taking a nostalgic stroll down memory lane. And wiping tears from my face with my soon soaked sleeves.
I pulled out our umbrella stroller which had accompanied us on a few trips to Disneyland, and struggled to open it, knowing there was a lock somewhere that was holding it all together, but not remembering quite where. After shaking it, stomping on it, and yanking on every latch I could find (um, you may want to think twice about buying the Combi City Savvy Stroller in Carolina Sky listed in the Portland Craigslist), the stroller finally flew fully open. As it did, I was engulfed in the most lovely, sweet cloud of baby smell. A smell so strong it made my arms begin to ache in that all-encompassing I must hold a baby in my arms right now sort of way. Which is crazy thinking.
Next, I opened a large plastic tote that turned out to hold an array of size 3-6 month clothes, worn by both Addison (for about a year) and Hayden (for about a minute). Again, I was overwhelmed by the baby powder smell of newborns that had somehow managed to cling to the fabric through several years of storage. That’s when a strange sound came from the back of my throat. Followed by another. And then a huge intake of air as the sobs overtook me.
What the heck!? Like I said. Crazy thinking.
Needless to say, very few things actually made it past my sentimental attachment and into the moving on to another family pile. But as I sorted, I had plenty of time to think, to reflect, and to wonder where all the time has gone, and how it managed to go so quickly. And to think about what I would tell my old self about all the things I know now, but didn’t yet then.
Such as…..
1) I would tell my pregnant self to turn off the Dallas reruns, and actually sleep during all those times I was put on bedrest, because it really is true that once you have kids, years will pass without a full night of sleep. And that makes for very tired (and cranky) mamas, so sleep all you can, while you can, and when will you ever have a better excuse to sleep than when on bedrest?
2) I would tell myself not to waste $25. on a bottle of miracle lotion that will keep stretch marks at bay. It is still sitting unopened in the medicine cabinet. And turns out to not have mattered, as the dreaded stretch marks never appeared. According to my sister, she got enough for the both of us.
3) I would say not to sweat the baby weight. I’d eventually lose most of it. But then gain all of it back and more from my ice cream addiction.
4) I would go back to my quick and unexpected, but complicated, labor with Addison to tell my very scared and bewildered self that I am so proud of her for facing such a scary situation with grace and strength. And then I would tell her to focus, focus, focus so she would remember that first moment she lay eyes on her baby, because in the next few moments things were about to get a whole lot more complicated and chaotic than they already were, and she wasn’t going to be able to recall that precious moment, no matter how many nights she stayed awake trying to force the memory back.
5) I would demand that I take more pictures. Many, many more pictures! And video. And to write down the funny things they say and do, right from the very beginning, because once mommy brain sets in, memory goes out the window.
6) I would tell my exasperated, exhausted self that I am exceptionally blessed to be mommy to two wild, energetic, free-spirited, hugely enthusiastic, hilarious boys and to not miss a minute of it, because it goes so quickly. And that in the blink of an eye, I will find myself out in the shop surrounded by piles of memories, wondering how all of a sudden I have a 5 year old, and a 2 year old. And that I would give anything to have some of those lost moments back. Just to hold on a little longer.
Addison getting to know his Daddy
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